Thursday, October 2, 2008

Where Has Life Taken You?

Are you where you always thought and dreamed you would be? Are you living your childhood dream now? Many of us aren't. I know I am not.

Since 3yrs old, like a lot of kids, I wanted to be an entertainer. My cousin and I sang, put on plays(wrote our own songs and plays) and danced wherever there was a group of 3 or more. We did shows for family functions, bday parties and all. But at the same time, I was the "lil old lady". Giving advice and always in grown folk business. Analyzing and singing is what I always did. I continued that love into junior high. I danced with a dance group in Cali and was on the schools Peer Mediation board. Still entertaining and analyzing. Once I got to high school I joined the chorus. Still singing. Even took some college courses on Music Mngmnt.

but having my son young and getting married young changed everything. I realized singing was a hobby and going to school for psychology wasn't in the plans at that moment. So I took some coding classes and continued on with life. I continued my love for writing since that was the only thing left of my childhood dream I had.

Now I look back and realize all my time is rapidly leaving. I could have completed two dreams by now. My cousin kept dancing in Cali and made it to some really good videos backing some hiphop and rap groups. My Chicago cuz/BFF kept singing for a while and has also put on Chicago land talent shows with her own production co.. See a pattern here?

Me? Still finding my way. lol...Feeling too old for some things, too young for others. I still plan on making my way to my Masters in Child Psychology and minor in journalism or at least a writing class. Pray for me! ...lol

Are you doing what you've always dreamed?

16 comments:

Let Me Explain said...

Yes and no...I am living part of my dream but I know there is so much more. I don't think I've dreamed my dream yet. lol I guess what i'm trying to say is I got the family(large part of what I always wanted) but now I'm trying to figure out the rest.

Tia's Real Talk said...

I have learned that it takes time..and it's never too late.

Unless you are dead.

James Tubman said...

good luck tia

with the economy the way it is you are definately going to need it

im pulling for you all the way kid

Tia's Real Talk said...

Thanks James..pull for me and pray..lol..check my cuz above..let me explain..

Miss Soul said...

I hear you on that. For the exception of children and marriage our roads have been similar. I went for the psych degree. I don't regret it but I should have listened to myself more.
Part of me still thinks I should have moved to NYC right out of high school, changed my name and become a dancer.
I am now getting to some of my dreams but I got a lot to do and like you mentioned...not a lot of time to do it in.
Keep fighting the good fight and be proud of what you have done.

Tia's Real Talk said...

We are a lot alike Miss Soul..and you are sooo right. I wish I wouldve gotten my psych degree..and not for a great good paying job..but because I want to own it and love the job. Thanks for the love!!

Ruthibelle said...

"I have learned that it takes time..and it's never too late.
Unless you are dead."
Too true. You're in my prayers.

To answer your ques... ummm, I kinda think so. Getting the degree (Major in Media, Major in Spanish, Minor in Gender Studies) and still writing like it's my oxygen. Book halfway done... I'm in a good place, I think. :)

Nothing I love to see more than happy people doing what they were born to do... this my inspiration.

Tia's Real Talk said...

wow ruthbelle that is sooooooo awesome...I am sooooooo proud of you! please keep doin what u do!!

Real Talk said...

my life has taken some unexpected turns. i'm not doing what i wanted to be doing career-wise and my life outside of work is not where i thought it would be. but its progressing wonderfully and i'm blessed beyond belief and content.
i like your blogs though, gives you something to really think about...

Kin'shar said...

im still praying for God to take me where I need to be....where he wants me in life...



how are you girl?

Jaz said...

I feel you on this post. I used to be a professional hip hop dancer and also a hiphop/ballet substitute teacher (yea those exist lol) up until I mysteriously collapsed at 20. Since then I haven't been able to dance like I used to & I've been strugglin tryin to graduate college. It's hard finding your way, but you can do it! Somehow stuff always seems to work itself out in the end, you just have to be patient.

Ps: Thanx for commenting on my blog, You are the first outside of Don haha

Tia's Real Talk said...

real talk - Glad to know even though your life did some things unexpected, you are still moving forward and happy. Most are not. thanks for the love.

Kin'shar- it's important to be still so we can hear/know what it is that God wants us to do. Stay in prayer!

Jaz- lol I din't know those exsist..lol. I'm sorry to hear about your illness. Are you ok? Of course you are cause you are here to tell the story! Keep dancing!

Thanks ladies..love yall and I will be stoppin by to see what's up on yall end of the blog corner!

A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

You're never too old and you look great if you think you are! I love journalism too. I wanted to be a marine and I wanted to be a journalist. Now I'm almost celebrating 18 years of law enforcement. Too late to quit but in my next life, in about 7 years, I hope to have a small version of Halmark. "China's Creations, specialing in personalized greeting cards. It's not accomplishing the "Dream" that's sad, it's not having one at all that sad. I forgot the author, but keep dreaming Tia! God wants us all to fulfill our Dreams otherwise he wouldn't put them in our hearts!

Tia's Real Talk said...

@ Free spirit..thank you for that. I have a habbit of saying "it will take forever.."but doing nothing at all is what takes the longest. You keep dreaming too..a goal unwritten is just a fantasy!

I didn't realize until I read someone's comment that you went through a bad relationship..if you wrote about it, can you send me the link/url? I would love to read it.

A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

They were all Bad, that's why I'm finally spreading my wings (smile) There's nothing specifically written about anyone of them, but just somethings in my journals. I have diaries from the 80's. Don't know if that's a good thing or not.

Tia's Real Talk said...

@ free spirit- I think keepin a diary/journal is a great thing. No matter how long it's been. Actually the older the better. Maybe one day you could share it with your children or just read it as a reminder of how far God has brought you!