Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Pick your Battles

Over the last year I have had 7 close family and friends embark upon marriage. 2 of which will jump the broom this Nov! So I dedicate this to all of you!!

The bible speaks of having a quiet spirit. Maybe I'm wrong, but to me that goes hand in hand with picking your battles.
Not everything has to be addressed or confronted. We have to learn what to speak on and what to let go.
This is good advice for relationships with children and adults. I had a friend that told me she was tired of fighting with her then 6 yr old daughter about getting up and ready for their Saturday errands, so she let her daughter dress herself. She was wrinkled and not matching at times but it worked and they made it out of the house in a timely fashion. Also, it stopped a lot of the whining and bickering. Now that idea might not work for every parent but it made Saturdays a lot easier for my friend. She picked her battles.
I have learned that even as a married adult, I have to pick battles with my husband. I know his pet peeves and I try to not aggravate them. But at the same time he must realize I will be me, and there will always be something I might do/do not do that he doesn't like so accept certain things. Remember we are consider "help mates" to each other in the bible. Rest assured, fighting every battle is not a help to either partner.
So how do I know what battle to fight?
First lets not consider everything a battle. Look at it as simply expression of feelings or just information. Looking at in as a battle all the time can result in a war!!

Ask yourself: Is this issue worth addressing (could mental, physical or financial harm result if not addressed?) Is it merely a pet peeve? Who would benefit from this battle if addressed?

Moral of the story speak on the necessary and let foolishness go. Not only will it help ease the possibility of war, it will help us learn what's really important and what's not.

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Blinders Off said...

You are wise Tia, I wish I was wiser when I was younger when it came to picking my battles. I could have saved myself a lot of grief, but with age comes wisdom.

Lisa at Brass and Ivory is an MS crusader in the blogosphere and she selected me as one of her dirty dozens to give the gratitude with an attitude award. I want to pass that on to you. It is up to you if you want to post it on your blog.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts I enjoy your blog.

Tia's Real Talk said...

thank you Blinders! I am honored. I did post and gave you and Lisa a shout out as well.


missrook said...

Just passing thru...nice post. Good concept to keep in mind. Slowly but surely life is teaching me this everyday.

A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

A lesson I've learned as each relationship failed. Now that I'm created new, I'm more with God's way than my will. I'm not perfect and I'm hoping that my future mate embraces my flaws and all. Love, peace and blessings!