Wednesday, April 9, 2008


There has been a host of woman to take ship when the going gets tough. Remember the runaway bride? She left her husband to be and a host of family members who were in town for her wedding because of depression and fear of marriage. She even changed her identity and had the family thinking she was kidnapped after a morning jog. But she was not the only one to succumb to the madness. Today the Midwest lawyer/councilmen who drove from Carolina to Ga while six months pregnant, claiming that she had been kidnapped by a couple and was able to break free was sentenced to probation. The minute I heard she was in front of six flags flagging down help, I knew it was a hoax. The story was made up. She left due to a "mental break down".

Don't get me wrong, I understand the stress of motherhood, post partum depression, hormonal imbalances, that time of the month, juggling a career, family, children and the support/psychotherapist we all play to our loved ones. All of us as woman have just wanted to run away, get in our cars and drive till we are out of gas. Being a woman is hard. But when you vanish, and leave your family without a word is wrong and selfish. Whats wrong with telling your family, "I'm going thru some things and I need to get away."But sometimes all sanity is gone. The ability to think rationally has flown out the window. When you aren't mentally balanced, that type of thinking is impossible. This behavior is a cry for help. If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself or your children talk with someone. If you are crying all the time, sleeping alot, loosing weight or just not feeling yourself talk to someone. Even if you notice someone not acting themselves do something. We have had too many columbines and runaway brides to just let it pass. Do something!!


Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

I still dont get it, is it a fad now? have a great weekend

Don said...

Great post.

I know the feeling all too well. The mother of my kids mastered this behavior. Until it came to a boil. She finally broke down and admitted how she didn't want the pressures of being a mother.

I think it was a cry for help. That revelation led to yet another startling revelation...

Tia's Real Talk said...

@ Torrance - I do think some women abuse the whole abducted story..which makes it a cry wolf when a woman really is in danger..this falls right into the previous post about the police failing to protect and serve. Probably why they don't respond unless the person's been gone 24 hours.

Don- Being a mother is hard and sometimes just "get over it" won't work. There is a serious hormonal change that happens in women after babies..the first 2-3 months is the baby blues. Mothers are going without eating ( like me) sleeping and dont mention recreation. Once it has past the 3 months and you are the same or's deeper. Is the startling revelation to personal to share?

i.can't.complain. said...

im glad u did this post

too often in our community we think depression is a sign of weakness and don't own up to it

it is hard being a mother, but it isn't impossible

i do hope this reaches someone who really needs it


Tia's Real Talk said...

@ i.can't complain- I do too...I'm sure all mothers have experienced some form of Blues" and we all need to know whats healthy and what's not. Even if this doesn't reach directly hopefully all those who need it will get the message somehow. Thank you for your honestly and support and come by as often as you'd like.