Saturday, February 13, 2010

Unexpected life Changes

I'm now the ripe old age of 30! I look back and I feel that there were a lot of things I thought I would do and have accomplished, and other things that I never saw coming. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. While I'm happy with my life, I am shocked by some of my choices and my decisions that have been made.
First and foremost, married?!? I said it would NEVER be me. I always thought I would have a boyfriend. I would let him spend the night over, and maybe even give him a drawer or two. But it was not going to be anymore committed than that. I saw myself as more of a free spirit. I would have a great career, and travel the world, with my girls and by myself. Don't ask me why I never had an interest in a love life. I was not the "male bashing" kind. I just wasn't interested. I'd noticed that the guys were always a tad bit into me more than I was with them. How did I always manage to find the clingy ones?
You could not have told me that I would met someone at 19 and know he would be special. I knew he would be the one, one day. That one day turned out to be the following year.
Married, with a baby, out of my parents home and living in another state all in 6months!
Where was that career and travel plans I had? Where did it go?
But as I look back, I realize that I am right where I am suppose to be. Me getting married young was my protection. My protection from the world. I have had many pity dates, went out with people I didn't like all for the sake of them being nice or not wanting to hurt their feelings. I've learned that that is dangerous and not a good thing to do!!! (I'll have to write about that disaster another day).
All in all, you are where you are suppose to be for a reason. Your plan for your life and God's will is very often on two different pages. Be grateful for the things you do not have because it is a reason for it.
Even though I didn't travel and get my career goals established before marriage and babies, but I can say now that I'm having the time of my life doing it all!! Even if it's not in the order I thought it would be.


Mizrepresent said...

Beautiful Tia, you are exactly where you are supposed to be and God has surely blessed you in every way :) Live your life lady, enjoy and cherish every moment. I know now that i am where i'm supposed to be too! I married at age 22, spent 22 years in the marriage, but it came to an end. It's not something i'm sad about, it is just what was meant to be, now i look forward to having that lifelong committment that i didn't find in my previous relationship. I am positive it will come, but for the time being i am simply preparing myself to be the best that i can be. Great post!

Tia's Real Talk said...

Yes Miz!! When we realize that we are where we are supposed to be, life has more purpose! There's no mistakes under the sun. I can't believe you were married for 22yrs. How can you spend 22yrs in a marriage if you are my age? I swear you don't look a day over 30!! Girl you gave that man the best 22yrs of his life! He is still on cloud 9!! Believe it! He was the practice run, the test. Now God is about to introduce you to your husband. I wouldn't be surprised if he's been watching you from a far!!! Mark my words and invite me to the wedding!!!