Why do we do it? Why do women settle and go out with those who aren't worthy of our attention? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we are God's gift. But why do we go out with men we do not like and have NO INTEREST IN??!?!
I was guilty of this way too many times. It wasn't until I met hubby that I stopped. That is why I stated in my last post that my marriage was a protection from something. I figured it out, a protection from dating loosers!! lol Don't get me wrong, they were all nice guys. But that was the problem, they were only "nice guys".
It took me a while to realize I deserved better than what I was letting entertain me. What I mean by "better" is not looks, but goals, ambition and character. The guys I dated felt a sense of entitlement because they had a cute face and money in their pocket.
My first pity date was a jerk!!!!!!! I was tricked!! He got my number when it wasn't meant for him. Then to top it off he was not nice on the eyes and he bought me lingerie the second time I'd seen him, on my birthday!! (the nerve)
Lesson to be learned, which is what I was taught by my mother...
"never go on a pity date, a man will be a man no matter what."
I guess I was expecting him to be nice since he had NOTHING else going for him! Here is what my first pity date looked like. NO LIE!!!!! lol
3 comments:
I once read in the bible that Jesus wasn't desired by the eyes either. But, I haven't come to destroy the spirit of your post.
and he bought me lingerie the second time I'd seen him
wow. you should've informed him that a cake would be just fine.
Look at the bright side - those pity dates probably made you realize what you were in store for, which made love and marriage appear even more attractive.
Just a thought.
"I once read in the bible that Jesus wasn't desired by the eyes ....."
But see, that's just it. It wasn't about the looks to me. Never has been. Jesus was a great man, I am attracted to those who do good for themselves and others.
He did get me flowers delivered to my house. I have never had that before. The vase and roses were sooo heavy, my dad had to carry it. That was perfect! He messed it up later that day with the skimpy red lacey number. It had so many strings I didn't know which way was up.
".......those pity dates probably made you realize what you were in store for, which made love and marriage appear even more attractive"
I couldn't have said it better myself!!!!! I really believe that Don!!
lol, i have had more pity dates than i can count, but what i most admired about these men is that they were kind and loving and respectful. Even if it didn't end in a loving relationship, i learned from them how i should be treated, no matter the looks, or finances. Good post Tia!
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