Wednesday, July 4, 2012

It's been a while.........

It's been a while since I've shared true thoughts and feelings here.  Just when I was learning to "write it out", life kicked in again and I went back to old habits.  Soooo much has been going on thats it's hard to find the time to sit down and write, write for me and my sanity.
During my hiatus, Ive learned a few things.  One, writing things down free's my mind and blogging free's the burdens.  I've also learned to practice what I preach!!
For months I've been helping people with different issues.  Offering advice, prayer and just being the ear to vent to.  Lately, I've found myself in some of the same situations that I've helped others about.  Not being one to ask for help or share whats eating away at me, I find myself having to go into 3rd person. I know it sounds crazy but I would have to keep asking myself  "why" until I got to the root of the problem. "Why are you hurt", "why are you angry".  And when I answered that question, I would have to go deeper and quetion WHY again.  And I would keep asking and keep answering until Ive gotten to the root of my issue.  Crazy, I know...but it works.  I've also had to give myself the same advice I would give someone else.  Sounds easy but we fail to do that.  I found myself asking myself..."If your sister/friend came to you with this problem, what would you tell them?"  Some times we have to step back and step out and see ourselves from a different set of eyes. 
So...even though I've been MIA...I'm still learning and growing!!

PS...I miss my blog friends. :(


Reggie said...

Blogging allows me to release the stress of the day in a positive way. There are so many destructive ways in which to do it........I'd rather do this.

Moanerplicity said...

It's been written that "an unexplored life is not worth living." So it behooves us to question, to ponder & to ask the WHYs of life. Asking questions and getting to the heart of the answers helps us to evolve as people & as spirits.

Welcome back!

One Love.

Mizrepresent said...

Hey Tia, awe hugs lady! Strong and compassionate people often take on others's what we do, while sometimes ignoring our own. I do believe it's okay to take a break and tend to ourselves. Feel free to do that lady, a husband, kids, career and ministering and others can takes its toll on you. So glad to hear from you, and we have surely missed you too!

Tia's Real Talk said...

Yeah Reg, you don't want to have to put no ones head on a pole. LOL

Tia's Real Talk said...

@Moanerplicity- You always have a way of making me think on a bigger scale. You challenge my "out of the box" thinking. THANKS FOR THAT!! It's a blessing!

@Miz- I can always count on you to put things in perspective! A hint of reality! You are soooo right, it takes a toll. You get consumed and your days get longer but the nights get shorter! But honestly, I wouldn't change a thing! Well, maybe I'll change the 5 hrs of sleep a night. ;)

A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

Love the post. I understand the need to be MIA. Truly it's a cancer trait. We have much in common aside from being summer babies. I'm July 14th.
We are indeed super at nurturing, being overly compassionate and forgiving to a fault.
I had been in your stilettos many times :)
I'm the one people used to and still do come to for an ear and that bit of advice, etc...
I used to pray that I could find someone to be there for me and like you, I had to learn to adhere to the advice I was giving. Funny right?
The journey has been long, challenging and full of epiphanies; but I would not change one single thing.
I've met some amazing people along the way and have befriended a lot of souls that I would not have met had I stayed in my shell and my comfort zone.
I'm still growing into the woman God created me to be and still discovering my likes and dislikes.
But most importantly, I'm learning that His will is so much better than my way :)

*I'm not coming to Atlanta for my b-day. Originally I was coming to visit a Pastor that I love. But once I found out that he was sponsoring a cruise on my b-day, I booked the trip.
God is awesome!

Love for a great day.

Thank you for visiting fsb and many blessings on your journey.

Hugs and blessings,