I've always heard this, "pray for those who persecute you", and I've done it a few times but only because it was something I was suppose to do. My heart was never truly in it. However, once I truly realized how bad I was hurting, when I wanted it to stop, I did it! Wholeheartedly! If you are close to me or if you know me, you know my pains of my past. You know what has hurt me to my core. I've dealt with the same pain for 26yrs!!!
My husband, who I love and can truly say is my best friend said, "Do you pray for him?" And it clicked!! It hit like bricks! Not because I knew the power of praying for those who hurt you because I had yet to come to that revelation. But because God had showed me a long time ago that I am suppose to pray for those I think of. And in the end, HE always shows me why I had to pray for the people. He would send a messenger or I would get in contact with the person and they will tell me everything! Their trials were always part of the prayer I would pray in advanced. So it hit me!! Pray for him because he is always in my thoughts. The minute I started praying for him, my hurt left, instantly I was DELIVERED from the hurt that I felt from him. Now fear is another thing I need deliverance from, but hurt no longer lives here. At the end of the day, we must forgive. HE didn't suggest for us to forgive..HE TOLD US TO!
So for every boyfriend/girlfriend, family member or friend that has hurt you, put them in your prayers daily. Pray for their well being and their salvation. Pray to be rid of the hurt that they've caused, ask for deliverance. Ask for GOD to forgive you for your part. As you start to do this daily, you will feel your heart soften up, and that's when the healing will begin!!