Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Pray for those who HURT you!

I've always heard this, "pray for those who persecute you", and I've done it a few times but only because it was something I was suppose to do. My heart was never truly in it. However, once I truly realized how bad I was hurting, when I wanted it to stop, I did it! Wholeheartedly! If you are close to me or if you know me, you know my pains of my past. You know what has hurt me to my core. I've dealt with the same pain for 26yrs!!!


My husband, who I love and can truly say is my best friend said, "Do you pray for him?" And it clicked!! It hit like bricks! Not because I knew the power of praying for those who hurt you because I had yet to come to that revelation. But because God had showed me a long time ago that I am suppose to pray for those I think of. And in the end, HE always shows me why I had to pray for the people. He would send a messenger or I would get in contact with the person and they will tell me everything! Their trials were always part of the prayer I would pray in advanced. So it hit me!! Pray for him because he is always in my thoughts. The minute I started praying for him, my hurt left, instantly I was DELIVERED from the hurt that I felt from him. Now fear is another thing I need deliverance from, but hurt no longer lives here. At the end of the day, we must forgive. HE didn't suggest for us to forgive..HE TOLD US TO!
So for every boyfriend/girlfriend, family member or friend that has hurt you, put them in your prayers daily. Pray for their well being and their salvation. Pray to be rid of the hurt that they've caused, ask for deliverance. Ask for GOD to forgive you for your part. As you start to do this daily, you will feel your heart soften up, and that's when the healing will begin!!

7 comments:

prisonsjournal said...

What a great blog. Keep it up and thank you

Tia's Real Talk said...

Thanks prisonsjournal! Thank you for stopping by! I look forward to reading about you and developing a bloggin relationship!!

Anonymous said...

This is such great advice...I am currently in a verbal & mental abusive marriage to a Lieutentant in the military who uses his travel to get with "escorts", and has several relationships going with women - one that used to live in the back of my home development, her friend that used to be a family friend, and his "best friend" from high school, and possibly his boss, a Lieutenant Commander. He's tried to make me think I am crazy by literally saying so amongst other things. I am spiritually drained, I feel that I have to endure this because after 19 years I have no other insurance, and cannot afford benefits and he has already apologized once to my children (a very superficial apology and went right back to his routine a week later if not sooner). Why do military spouses that are in such relationships have to put up with the foolishness in order to receive the benefits that they deserve due to giving up career opportunities, turning down costly medical insurance, etc. all to support the military member and then left out in the cold to fin for themselves? He even uses the BAH to pay for his bills and I have to pay for housing where I am and he pays where he is (he is a geo-bachelor in another state right now doing everything he is big and bad enough to do). Here's the kicker...they all "praise God when with each other and profess to be such God fearing persons. I am tired, and NEED God to intervene. My human nature wants God to just take them all out, but I realize that ultimately God's will be done. I have begun to read my Bible again, and I want the Lord to deliver me....I will pray for all parties involved

This Place I'm In

Tia's Real Talk said...

Anonymous,

I'm sooo sorry you are going through what you are going through. Thank you for reaching out and venting! It is truly good for the soul. Let me start by saying you are on the right track by getting back into reading your bible. Get that personal relationship back with God, because HE is the only one who can get you through and give you the strength to endure. Did I read correctly that you and he are living in seperate quaters right now? If that's the case, use the seperation to seek other options. Seek counsel or talk to your pastor. Are you trying or interested in leaving him? I NEED for you to know that you deserve better than that and I am not in a position to tell you to leave your husband but at the same time this relationship is not healthy for you or your children. Email me tia_girl757@hotmail.com

Let's keep in touch!! You are in my thoughts and prayers

Anonymous said...

Good Afternoon Tia. Thank you for the above message. I am a 27 yr old mother of one who has been in an on-again off-again relationship for the past five years. Recently this man has physically and verbally abused my by saying he has used my for all those said years and even went as far as saying hurtful things about my child and deceased mother. I do not wish him any harm whatsoever. I believe in reaping what you sow and so forth. I want to pray for him BUT I do not want to feel like I'm granting him blessings by doing so. Is that bad? I need to seek a more clearier understanding of praying for the ones who hurt/persecute you. Thx for reading.

Tia's Real Talk said...

Hey anonymous I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. Praying for those who hurt you does more than you think it does. It's not just for them but its for you too! When you pray for someone wholeheartedly and you mean what you say, there is a sense of peace and forgiveness that comes over you. You need to forgive him for you not for him. Forgiveness helps you to be able to let things go so that you can move on and live your life. And God says you MUST FORGIVE. I know you are hurting. Its ok and its natural, but you have to pray for him too. He obviously is hurting too. A person who says and does those type of things clearly has issues and needs prayer. I hope this helped or made sense. Let's keep in touch! Tia_girl757@hotmail.com

My belle said...

Hi Tia,

I am really thankful that i chance upon your blog. I am in an abusive relationship as well and does noy know how to ger out...i am living with a narcissist who thinks only of himself and nothing else. He has hurt me so many times with his deceitful ways and constant cheating... I have somehow thought him to return to God so that he can live a blessed life and i thought really he is doing this for us and to he a better person only to find out he's praying and asking God for so many material and wordly things. Once he has received all the things he has asked dor die to my help as well he goes back to his old ways ans i am left to suffer again in his behavior. All i need now from you and the others is to pray for me to have the courage to leave him as i know he will never change. I have prayed for him everyday so that despite of everything he has done to me God continually blessed his life...