Saturday, September 25, 2010


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Friday, September 24, 2010

Watch what you say!

‎7 things that are an abomination to the Lord includes anyone who "sows discord among brethren" Prov. 6: 16-19. Our tongues can be like a Swiss Army knife. So put the "knife" away and use your words to help and heal. -Joe Stowell
Lord, put a seal upon my lips,
Help me to guard with care
The things I say and swift repeat;
O tongue of mine, beware!- Bosch
Not only is HE watching but HE is listening to everything you say! EVEN THE UNSPOKEN!! Which to me, are the loudest words ever heard!

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Managing Perception

I have always managed perception without really knowing the term, or that I was even doing it. It wasn't until my recent business venture that I had become aware. As Regional Exec. of my business, I am to be a certain way. During our meeting I am to conduct myself a certain way. First off you need to be at every single meeting. Second, when you are there, you must be attentive. Take notes even if you know whats being said and you heard millions of times. Dress accordingly, and refrain from texting, talking, note passing or anything that is disruptive or considered a "bad look" for someone at the regional exec. position.

Rewind, I have always managed my perception. It was with the help of my hubby that I realized it. Early in my marriage 22 or 23, I was looking for my uncle and found him at a bar. I went in, spoke with him, sat, laughed and talked. There came a point when my cousin and I was asked to take a picture by my uncles good friend. No harm...we took the picture, not knowing that a HUGE crowd of thugs and hoodlums were standing and jumping in the pics as well. I never saw the pic but I know what someone looking at it would think. You definitely wouldn't think that I was a sweet, young married girl that didnt drink or club at all!! By stepping foot in that bar changed any perception of what I wanted to be viewed as. I am sure the photo threw it out the door as well. I am a wife and mother and christian. Also the daughter-in-law of an Elder at a high profiled church in Chicago. Because of that, there are certain places and things you will not catch me in or doing. I will not be in the clubs. I chose that way before I got married. Check out my real fist reason for not clubbing by clicking here(be sure to see the tragic video afterwards). Next, I started realizing that it wasnt a place for me as a married woman. No, not saying married women shouldn't be there, but I shouldn't. Everything that's at the club is what was associated with a single worldly person. The suggestive clothing, music, drinking and drugs and the inappropriate behavior of club goers. I have no interest in being associated with that kind of stigma.

Present day, and what this post is truly about, Pastor Eddie Long. Many say he didn't do it, it's not true. I'm not here to say either or. Nor will I voice my opinion on whether or not I think he did. What I will say is some pictures have surfaced, because I want to manage the perception that I am not judgemental or a basher, I will NOT post them. I will say that as a pastor, even though he was clothed, the pics that I found were pics that I think should never be sent to ANYONE! It doesn't manage the perception of a pastor.

In any event, this post was to shed light on how to conduct yourself and represent who you are accordingly. If you are a wild clubber, a modeled citizen, a law official, a christian.... ARE YOU MANAGING YOUR PERCEPTION??

Friday, September 17, 2010

Gone too soon!

Just thought I'd give some recognition to some fallen African American stars who have gotten little to no fanfare/recognition. Did you know them, did you realize they were gone. Mainstream media didn't shed much light. But here in no particular order, just a few that I have remembered that made an impact.

(1974 - 2003)

Keven A. Conner, better known to R&B fans as Dino, lead singer of the group H-Town, was killed in a car accident on Tuesday.

According to Houston police, Dino, 28, had just left a recording studio and was a passenger in a car being driven by his girlfriend, 22-year-old Teshya Rae Weisent. Their vehicle was struck by an SUV that ran a red light and both Dino and Weisant were killed.

Three people were in the SUV and all fled after the accident. One man, Juan Diaz, was apprehended, however, and faces felonious charges of failure to stop and render aid.

Originally signed to a recording contract by 2 Live Crew's Luther "Luke" Campbell, H-Town rose to prominence 10 years ago with their debut album, Fever for Da Flavor, which spawned their biggest hit, "Knockin' the Boots." In an interview with the Houston Chronicle, Shazam, Dino's twin brother and groupmate, said the trio had just finished an H-Town reunion album. Their last LP, Ladies Edition, was released in 1997.

“Rhythm-and-blues singer Tony Thompson, whose body was found near an air-conditioning unit outside an East Waco apartment complex earlier this month, died accidentally while “huffing” Freon, an autopsy report released Friday shows.

Dr. Reade A. Quinton, a medical examiner at the Southwestern Institute of Forensic Sciences in Dallas, determined that Thompson, 31, died from “toxic effects of chlorodifluoromethane,” or inhaling a toxic amount of Freon.

Freon is a gas primarily used in refrigeration and air-conditioning units.

Thompson, a Waco native and former lead singer for the platinum-selling Waco quintet Hi-Five in the 1990s, was found dead outside an apartment complex June 1.”

See Orish Grindstead in this video Subway ft. 702- This lil Game We Play

Orish Grinstead (June 2, 1980 - April 20, 2008) was an American R&B singer and founding member of the R&B group, 702. 702 is best known for its 1999 hit song, Where My Girls At, but also had hits with Get It Together and Steelo. The group has sold over 500,000 music units worldwide.

Grinstead formed 702 with her twin sister, Irish Grinstead, her older sister, LeMisha Grinstead and her friend, Kameelah Williams, in Las Vegas during the mid-1990s. The group was discovered by actor and comedian, Sinbad. He used his influence to get 702 onto a popular talent show in Atlanta, Georgia. Grinstead and the rest of the group met Michael Bivins while performing at the show. (Bivins is a member of New Edition and Bell Biv Devoe, as well as the manager of Boyz II Men.) Bivins suggested the name 702 for the group in honor of the telephone area code of their native Las Vegas and became their manager.

Orish Grinstead left 702 early on to pursue a solo career. However, she often rejoined 702 when another member had to leave temporarily. For example, Kameelah Williams left the group on two separate occasions to pursue her own solo career, so Grinstead rejoined the group in her place until Williams rejoined 702. Orish Grinstead also rejoined the group in 1999 when her older sister, Lemisha Grinstead, took a temporary leave from 702 in order to have her son.

Orish Grinstead died on April 20, 2008, at the age of 27 from kidney failure. She had been suffering from cancer and other undisclosed illnesses.

Lead singer, Kenny "G-Love," Greene (pictured in the center) of the 90's group "Intro," died of AIDS complications in 2001.

Midwest rapper MC Breed, born Eric Breed, was found dead in Ypsilanti, Michigan at the home of a friend on Nov. 22 after suffering kidney failure. He was 36. Months before his death, Breed collapsed on a basketball court and was later rushed to a hospital where he was placed on life support due to kidney failure. He died days after doctors removed him from life support. Breed gained attention as an independent artist with a number of early 1990's albums, including MC Breed & DFC, 20 Below, The New Breed and Funkafied. Breed's career spans 20-years and 13 albums. He collaborated with various West Coast rap stars including Too Short, Warren G and the late Tupac Shakur.

Who can forget cotton candy cutie, Artimus Lamont Bentley who played Hakeem Campbell on Moesha. The Milwaukee native worked with silver screen heavyweights such as Danny Glover on the film Buffalo Soldiers before his untimely death on January 18, 2005. Bentley was killed in a single-car accident as he drove along Highway 118 near Simi Valley in southern California's Ventura County. A police report says his car veered off the road and over an embankment, ejecting him from the vehicle and landing him traffic where he was then struck by five cars. He was 31 and the father of two young daughters

Lyfe Jennings ft LaLa Brown video

In the days before up-and-coming R&B singer Yolanda Brown and her boyfriend and producer JeTannue Clayborn were killed in the north side recording studio where they also lived, it had been the scene of a burglary in which most of their equipment had been stolen.

Milwaukee police released few details after the couple were found dead on Friday inside Loud Enuff Productionz, in the 5500 block of W. Lisbon Ave., and have not announced any arrests in the case. Brown's family doesn't know if the earlier crime is linked to the deaths, but notes that cords and accessories for the stolen equipment were missing after the shootings.

While questions remain about why the couple died, what Brown's family does know is that she was taken from them, and the music industry, too soon.

Brown, 21, was featured on a recording and in a video by platinum-selling singer Lyfe Jennings and was considered his protégé. She performed on local stages but also toured with Jennings as more fans came to know her professional name LaLa Brown.

"It was going to pay off. We knew it was going to pay off," (READ MORE)

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Hmmmmmm...... first glance what do you think of this shirt? Looks like something I would wear to support our President. But read Psalm 109; 8-9. Be sure to read EVERYTHING before you wear it and support it. You know the best way to trick blacks is to put it in a book (i.e text). SMH!!!!!

30 day fast VIDEO

Here's where the 30 day fast came from!!!! He spoke at our Evolv dinner and he's GREAT!!!!!

Monday, September 13, 2010

30 Day mental fast

1, Devote yourself to reading something uplifting for 15-20mins a day.
2, Turn off the TV.
3, Turn off the radio.
4, No newspapers.
5, Associate with only uplifting people.
6, Drink lots of water.
7, Exercise at least 20 mins a day.
8, Reflect on the good that happens throughout the day/life for 30 mins a day.

Can you do this? Are you up for the challenge? What is your vice? Can you stand to change some things in your life? Do you want to see improvement in your mental state, your business, your thought process or just your life period?


We all have our different take on marriage. Should it be traditional? Should it be old fashion? Or should it be WHATEVER the 2 parties want?

One thing I do know is many marriages go thru the same thing at the same time. It will be 11yrs for me in Dec. and the things I went thru during years 1-3 is similar to what a lot of my newly married friends have and are going thru. I was married first so I didn't have anyone to tell me what to expect or what fights/arguments were normal. I can now see what kind of fights and problems are normal and healthy. I came across this blog while surfing the blogs. Read it, it's deep. True or not, it sounds like this young lady has had her share of heart ache but appears to be really strong!!!!

Friday, September 10, 2010

My heart goes out to the Sapp family

Prominent gospel music artist Marvin Sapp recently lost his wife, MaLinda Sapp, to colon cancer. The couple had been married for 15 years and they had three children. MaLinda was an administrative pastor at the church, Lighthouse Full Life Center, that they ran together in Grand Rapids, Mich.

Before she died, MaLinda was a college professor and licensed professional counselor. The following statement was issued by 92.1 Praise Houston about her death:

"It's with our deepest sympathy that we inform you that Pastor Marvin Sapp's wife MaLinda Sapp has passed on today after battling colon cancer. It was confirmed on the Lonnie Williams show today. An official press release has not been issued yet but more details will be coming on the Yolanda Adams Morning show tomorrow morning! Earlier this year, Marvin Sapp was testifying of how his wife, MaLinda, was given a clean bill of health by doctors after being diagnosed with Stage 4 Colon Cancer in 2009. But then, those health concerns resurfaced and Marvin Sapp requested intense, around-the-clock prayer."

Marvin Sapp's song, 'Never Would Have Made It' reached number 14 on the Billboard charts for R&B/hip-hop songs. He recorded with the group Commissioned in the 1990s before starting a solo career. The couple's three children are Marvin II, Mikaila and Madisson.

MaLinda Sapp was selected as principal of Grand Rapids Ellington Academy.