Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Bag Lady

There comes a time when we must let go of the bags. Someone has hurt us, betrayed us and mistreated us but how long will it fester? At what point do you take back control of your life and say "enough"? Bags are strongholds and/or things from your past that you have yet to let go of. Get the closure you need to release your baggage.

Grown children living at home, lovers disrespecting your relationship, or back stabbing friends, are all things that can and will cause an overload of bag issues. It leaves you bitter and unable to embrace the things that life brings. It weighs you down and you start to lack the luster you once possessed. Take inventory of your life and surroundings. Holding on to hurt and pain manifests in our bodies causing stress and other illnesses. Rid yourself of all things that are holding you back.

Stop faulting you sister for childhood things, let it go that your friend didn't return your shoes, let go of the fact that your boyfriend looked at another woman, they have. And while you are angry and holding on to bull, they have gone on with their life and not even consumed with your issues.

Ladies, how many times have you gotten into relationships that were founded on a crutch? For fear of being alone or the last one married; we keep our hair tight, close tighter, plaster on a fake smile and begin yet another relationship even though you are still hurting from what so and so did to you in 1996. But we wonder why our relationships don't work.

What if you don't realize you have baggage. Here are a few examples:

Can't get a phone in your name because your ex jacked up your credit? Baggage!

Can't park your car because you are housing your cousins bedroom set? Baggage! Literally.

Can't/won't open up to love and happiness because of a hurtful past relationship? Baggage!

All of these things are holding you back from something in your life.

How do you release them once they have been revealed?

One step at a time. This requires more than a mental action, it's physical too. Sometimes conversations need to be had, phone calls made, boxes packed up, items returned or just simply let it go and forgive. Not in secret, let them know you forgive them!

Baggage is effecting your life physically so the action that must be taken is physical.

Ignoring it will only pile on the luggage and delay any growth and happiness.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Look into my eyes.....

If you look into my eyes

you will find a young lady who has the ability

to laugh hysterically and cry uncontrollably

all in a day

You will find the jokester and life of the party

amongst her circle

Look into my eyes and you will find

I'm a mother, wife and friend

someone who puts others before her

loves those who angered her

befriends those who are different from her

brings those to tears in laughter

warms hearts with compassion and sincerity

but look a little deeper

You will find a young girl who still seeks approval

who's pain is deep and tears are shallow

but look a little deeper and you will find

the contentment of my present

the excitement of my future

the pain of my past

look a little deeper and you will find a young lady

who loves people

but wants to be alone (still tryin to figure that one out)

you will see a mother, wife and friend

deal with the curses of MS daily but ignore it

and keep it moving

you will find someone who will love so hard

til' it hurts

who has dealt with her own insecurities

not big enough, not tall enough and yes

not dark enough

Looking into my eyes will tell you

where I've been

the path I've followed

and pain I've endured

but look into my heart and you will find

where I'm headed

the happiness I' ve felt

and the journey I'm seeking

Look into my eyes......

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Over Sexed And Under Aged Part II

I am here to touch on this subject again. Why is this acceptable? Why do people think it's cute? Why do we become sooo shocked when she becomes pregnant at 15 or when he goes to jail for under age sex on a minor? Or what about when they have an over-interest in sex? Let's think back to this very moment when we are rocking grandbabies at 35 wondering where did we go wrong?

We have got to do better!

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Obama Got Skillz!

We descovered he could dance on Ellen but who knew he could sing too! Pretty funny.

Saturday, August 9, 2008


If one more talk show or morning show speaks of this, I just might blow my roof! Frenemy is a friend who acts more like your enemy. (enemy in friends clothing)
The different levels of frenemies:
The black hole- always negative, nothing positive to say.
Queen Me- Will always change the story to make it center her.
Unfriendly Competition- Anything you can do I can do better.
Gossipy- The town crier, sinister, gossips to make you look worse than her
Comments of a Frenemy
"You look tired" A way of telling you that you look a hot mess!
"I saw your boy friend and his new girl she sooooo pretty she looks like model"-
"I'm sorry you feel that way, A half a** apology
"Those shoes are soooo you"-You would say thank you till you realize, this isnt really a compliment
I befriended someone like this before. She was the unfriendly competitor. If I got honey blond streaks she'd die her hair platinum. If I get a cute new boyfriend, she'd get 2!

Do You have any frenemies? Do any of these sound familiar? Put em on blast or just share your experience.

Thursday, August 7, 2008


Ok you guys being that you all are business owners, you might be interested in checking out HughesNet. For the longest I have been looking for satellite internet service that is compatible with my personal needs. The best part is no dial up or logging on and no monies up front. Thank goodness! Ok, let me back up and tell you what HughesNet is.
Hughes Net uses satellite technology, not your phone line, to give you a super-fast, always-on Internet connection. I don't know about you but with a household of 5 my phone line cannot be tied up. Now there are two different plans, the business plan, which is the Professional Service plan that downloads speeds up to 1 Mbps and upload speeds up to 200 Kbps. Windows, Mac, it doesn't matter it's all compatible. It's no hassle for ordering or setting up. You can do it all online. Now there is 2 plans for the business. It’s office speed which is the Elite and Elite Plus for Business Class. The office speed Elite is good enough for me because my business is still rather small and up coming. What are your internet needs? To me, as long as it’s cost efficient, convenient and compatible with my current computer then what’s there to lose. How many services can you set up online? With no monies upfront! I cannot stress that enough!! You also have the freedom to pay with 2 payment options. Options are unheard of when it comes to internet. It’s usually a “take it as it comes” deal. I love the fact that there are 5 different speeds that are right for me and my needs and usage. Oh and the best plan is not necessarily the most expensive plan. Each plan is designed to fit the needs of you and your home lifestyle. Even for the pre-teen whose a internet pro, or the elderly who might be a little intimidated by the internet. There is also a plan design for the true surfer.
HughesNet comes with it’s on personalized satellite dish so it will not be used with any other. Nor will it be billed jointly with any other satellite services you might own. I’m not the brightest when it comes to reading technology and setting up/hooking up services. But HughesNet will mail you out the information packet so that you can get all the questions you need answered. Everything to the plans, speeds, how it works and why to choose HughesNet. I could go on and on about the services but I think you should try it for yourselves. Give them a call toll free at 1-888-892-2434 or check them out online. Be sure to reply to this post the minute you try Hughes Net and tell me how it works for you!

Wednesday, August 6, 2008


Lets be honest. Some woman walk into a marriage thinking they can change that man, and men walk into it thinking/hoping that woman will never change. They are both equally wrong. Why would you want to change someone. Them being who they are is what drew you to them, its what attracted you. And why would you want to be with someone hoping that they never change? With change comes growth. We all do it and if one mate changes and the other doesn't, then we are what the bible considers unevenly yoked. I hear from a lot of woman how they prayed to God that their man becomes this, or does that. Don't you know that you must be careful of what you pray for? Is it possible that you are the one that needs to meet him halfway or maybe you need to change? Just because you want someone to be something does not mean you should go casting requests to God when you don't know His plan. Pray that the change comes in His time and according to His will.
Even with personal change, be careful of what you pray for. Ask God for Him to reveal to you the person He has you destined to be. Ask how to be a better you? Ask for guidance and direction.
We all must change and we should embrace it..but let it take its coarse unless God says otherwise.

Monday, August 4, 2008


Why on earth can't I go to sleep like normal people? Every night I'm up till 5-6am, even when I can't blame my 6month old. The nights that I'm not acting like a kid by staying up watching tv and surfing the net I lay in bed and slumber does not take me over. Hubby works from 7pm-7am, like a nut I'm up when he gets home. He thinks I got up early to make him breakfast, such a good wife. He just recently found out that all that time I'm awake! 2-3 hours a night I'll get. Go to bed about 6-8am and that's about it. He says I'm stressed..I don't think so. He asks what am I doing up so late, definitely not having any "CONFESSIONS OF A LATE NIGHT PHONE CONVERSATION" like my fellow best blogger, nice read by the way. So whats the deal. Nite Q don't work!! Showers wake me up and my 6month old wont let me relax in the tub long enough. Then when I do fall into slumber I am easily awaken! My ex told me that I'm paranoid. No way, not me. Then I'm soooooo into the court shows I'll get up at 9 fixing breakfast and watching tv..knowing darn well I need to be sleep. I need a job..I plan on going back to school..that'll fix me!! Someone help me sleep..any suggestions??

After diagnosing myself I have come up with the thought, I dont wanna sleep. My day is consumed of other people so once they are asleep I need my me time..and I don't care if I grt it at 2am-7..but thats still kinda drastic..doncha think?